Love Korner: Dreams & Dreammate!!

[queenofheart]

pretty tough question i guess but still got some very interesting answers

SO NOW..



ITS POLLING TIME!!!!

PARTICIPANT # 1:
If you start hating the person that had shattered your dreams at first place then it was not worth for both of you being together, or I would say that's not love. I mean if I assume myself in this scenario, at some point i will be angry, but life goes on after that, one should move on. Actually, here my mind come up with two scenarios. First one is that when you start realizing that you love someone and try to approach that person with all the anticipation and excitement, willing to get your desired response, on the contrary if the answer is completely different than that you expected and the person rejects you therefore, At this point I would say that would be his/her right to do so. You should give that person some time, instead of begging or hating him/her literally. If you still don't get what you want then eventually you should move on rather than crying over the spilled milk. If I were to came across with this situation, I would pray best for him, because I loved him. My feelings would never change. But moving on in life is the key!!!!
Scenario number two for me would be facing a betrayal from a person you love with all your heart and soul. If that person has broken your trust by any means, or as you have asked shattered your dreams, then just asked him/her the reason. If the reason sounds absurd to you, then quit being with him/her. A coin has always two sides, and being optimistic, which I suggest one should always be, try to get the main reason behind his/her attitude. So, if you still not understand why he/she has done so, then you both should not be together. And naturally that hating thing arises anyway, but don't get it on your nerves. I would never get depressed over it for my entire life, because if someone loves you then that person will think about your happiness first, and that shattering dream thing would never exist near to him/her.

In a nutshell, moving onwards is what I would do If I, God forbid, ever have to come across with such situation. I will never and I can never hate him for it!!! Ever There is no condition for loving someone !!!

PARTICIPANT # 2:
Pretty tough question to be honest. There are some situations in life that you can not plan in advance for how to react when that happens. I will exactly categorize your question in the same.

Anyways, what i make out of this question is that you have a good understanding with your future partner untill one fine morning everything changes for no apparent reason. He/she says that the relationship can no longer be sustained.

What .... !!!! why ... !! ?? Blank face & no reason you can think of.

That's when your dreams shatter, it hurts ... really, but then again you wont give up on something that you were planning to make a part of your life. You try to get the answer, desperate to get even a little hint of what was that all about. But sometimes no matter how much you try, the fate will not be on your side & you would have no choice left but to accepet the reality. That it's over ... It hearts a great deal & will continue to do so for the rest of your life but you can never forget that person ... You pray for his/her happiness in your prayers.

If you truly love anyone then you can't really hate him/her ever. No matter what you say but deep down you know this truth .

PARTICIPANT # 3:
i know this is something that seldom happens in true love but we cannot deny that this never happens!!

i have a true example of someone who is very dear to me,, someone who went through all this,, and yet his/her answer to this situation is something that i would say highly unpredictible!!

why,, when we think of this question the first thing that arises in mind is that we should leave the person who did this to us!! tell me is it easy to leave ur dreammate behind you?? can u get over that person easily?? or can u get him/her out of your system forever?? i believe that the answer for all these is a big NO!! no matter how hard it is to admit that!! bcuz,, u love him/her from the bottom of your heart!!

true that when u're angry u feel that that particular person is not your dreammate,, bcuz he/she cant agree with u.. but afterwards,, dont u see both sides of the coin??

i know it is easy to say that u should leave that person behind you,, BUT it is not easy to do so.. it is a realistic question,, so the realistic answer is what i got from a dear person.. and that is.. that u get over your anger,, give it some deep thinking,, and finally try to forgive your loved one.. because true love is something which you cannot leave behind!! and because we say.. EVERYTHING IS FAIR IN LOVE!! and in urdu.. "MEHBOOB PE TO SAU (100) KHOON BHI MAAF" but YES!! if this thing happens again then yes,, you have to decide whether that person truly loves you or not OR how deep your own love is for that person??

in short,, after the reality that i saw,, i would say everyone deserves a second chane!! n you should allow that person to try for real what your destiny is..

PARTICIPANT # 4:
hmMmm quite interesting question!! But deadly difficult as well. I hope so that I will be able to give the answer!!I would really appreciate all the answers as they are very true and very near to reality.

The very first thing over here is the fact when u love a person.. so u have to accept that person with all the good qualities and the bad ones. It is very natural that things dont go ur way. Every person has some dreams some wishes in love to be fulfilled and when those dreams are broken it hurts alot. But I really believe in moving on. Coz one way or the other time heals everything. Instead of cursing our beloved that he/she didnt do good with us we should give it some time. Im sure if thingz are dealt while being calm it does solve out. Not only solve out but something even better is provided in return.

I also know that being calm n cool with the situation is simply out of question and it is the most difficult thing to do but still its not impossible. As they say Love hurts.. n these breaking of dreamz n all is really only felt in Love otherwise if we look around our normal routine lives so many of the things doesnt go our way. Like right from the childhood if a person has a dream of going into Army and when he/she grows up so he/she suddenly fails the test or for some reason aint able to go.. so again a big dream is broken but still we find our way out of it. We move on and we so realise that maybe its for our own betterment. Simlilarly if the same criteria is kept with the loved one...i suppose many many things will be solved out. After all being angry is the solution to nothing .. nothing at all!!

The moral is that it may seem very tough but not impossible. Rest I would say that we can only give our comments here but real feeling only that person knows whoes been through it!!!

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