[Discussion] Sawaal-E-khusoosi ..... ??? participation of men will b appreciated :)

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hru all??

question is;



GHR DAMADI ko log kun buri nazar se dekhtey hen...??? kun mrd ki gherat pr bn jati he agr use koi ghr damadi ka keh de

ya ghr damadi ka tana de?????

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agr waqai ghr damadi aik gherat mnd admi k liye tana he ya ghalat bat he ya gherat pr hrf k brabar he to.........

WO MRD JAHAIZ LENA kese gawara krleta he?? kiye ye gherat pr hrf nahi??? k aik shakhs shadi is dawe or wade k

sath krrahahe k wo sari umr apni biwi k liye sahara bne ga, shadi ki shuruaat hi awrat/biwi k saman se krta he

isn't it hillarious...???


Thanx all for ur participation n appreciation if any lol

[Attractive-Ey3s]

hahahahahahah!!!! very serious and and funny questions .....lol.....

iska jawab tau boys hi day sakty hain
but han agar bura lagta hay ghar damadi pay tau jahaiz bhi na lo...........



well kaheen aysa bhi daikha hay main nay k mard raazi nai hota jahaiz pay kabhi koi mard isko as a custom samjhta hay or koi gharwalon say darta hay....................



system hay ye jahaiz ..kya kiiya jaye...magar hay tau ghalat.................

dear jahez ka jawab ek larka nahi ek saas means ek ladki dy skti hai...
ziyada tar ye baat saas hi kahtin hain... i think so...

[Attractive-Ey3s]

yar aap ne bht hi acha sawal kiya hai...
kuch loug tou ghr damad nahi ban k b ghar damad hoty hain.. means rahty apne ghr hain but sb kuch kaam susralyo sy karwaty hain apni wife k galy pe churi rakh k...
ye hamary yaha system ban gaya hai... kisi ko b ghar damad aur jahaiz psnd nahi.. but jab khud ki bhari aati hai tou yehi chiz achi lagny lagti hiay...
saas kahti hai k mai b tou jahez lai thi.. teri bahen b tou jahaz lai k gai hai.. tou tumhari biwi ku na jahez lai...
aisy aisy sawal uthty hain...
sb hi system ko chnge karna chahty hain but starting koi b nahi karta...

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yes u r right

basically to susral walon ki cooperation se hi iska khatma mumkin he lakin

us soorat me jis me lrkey ki maa khud paish pais ho jahaiz lene k liye wahan to mrd ki zimmedari bnti he onjection krne ki

chhe wo husbnd (susr) ho ya betaa

dear jahez ka jawab ek larka nahi ek saas means ek ladki dy skti hai...
ziyada tar ye baat saas hi kahtin hain... i think so...

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Rujail ki baat b bilkul theek ha k: Hadrat Fatimah (R.A) ne wo tohfay sari umr istemaal kye ti jo Nabi Pak (S.A.W) ne unko di!!!

han zbrdsti maang taang k lne wali cheex ko khtm krna chye, betiyn k maa baap q muashraay r lgn ko dkhany k lye apni hesiat r martabay c brh brh k dty en??? q ese mangny walon ko rokty nhi!!! wajbi sa do, (tohfatan) to is me muzaika to koi nhi, wo cheex betiyn ne he istemaal krni hti hen
hum lgn ki halat circus k hathi ki trh ha, js k paon ma bchpn ma he zanjeer dal di jati ha r wo usy k 7 bara o jta ha, halan k wo us ko 1 jhatkay c tor sakta ha, ye smjne ki xrurat e
burai ki tasheer hti e, achai chup jati ha.

jahan tk ghar damaadi ki baat ha to ye khud sakhta bnai hui riwayat ha. hmesha se khwateen e rukhsat o k jati hen, mardon ki rukhsati hum ni dkty. hmary muashray ki khud sakhta r ajeeb si rivayat bn chuki he jahan dono partiyon ko apna lalach r mafaad axeex hta e. is p me tbsra krna ni chahta.

qata irrelevent kesey ho gay bhala??? han ye zoroor he ke aapki tawwaqa ke barkhilaaf comment kiye hain mene.

ye apko dosre cmnt me btati hun

I already said :"likhan abhi bohat kuch he. . per me janta hon ke meri itni bhaat bhi kisi ke pally nahi pary gi. . . tu aagy likhney ka koi faidah nahi. .. "

poori bat ka conclusion ye he ke. . . Larky (Damad) ko khjarab kerny me Mnderjabala awamil waqo pazeer hotey hain. .

han ye aur baat he ke. . mebhi aap aur sab ki tarah se apni bharas nikaal do jis ka koi haasil ho aur na wosool. .. !!! Taali donoon hathoon se bajti he. . . zimehdari lean mushkil kaam he ba-nisbat es ke ke zimdari dosroon per daal di jay.

Dosri bat jahez trend beemari ya rasam nahi. . huzoor pak sallala ho alaihi wassalm ne bhi hazrat fatima ko kuch tahaaif diye thay. . . mustahab amal he. . . bila kisi shart aur demand ke jahez dena jaiz he. . . aur ye apni beti se mohabbat ka izhaar he. . .

baqi rahi baat aaj-kal ke trend ki. . . to aaj-kal per zindagi ka daromadar nahi hota. . . ye hamara maashri masla he. aaj-kal ka insaan jis tarah se khud apney deen o dunya ka malik samjhta he. . . woh apny amal ka khud zimedaar hey.. .

mery rishtey ke bhai ki shadi per hum ne jahez leny se inkaar kia tha.. .per bhabi ke gher waaly zaberdusti room measure ker ke os ke size ke hisaab se saman ke aay thay. . .

again ager dil pe hath rakh ke ek baar phir merey 1st comment ko dekhain gey tu jawab mil jay ga. . . werna samjhny aur samjhaney ke liye koi tayyar hi nahi. . . han min-hias ul qoom hum ko bura bhala kehny me taaaq hasil he. . . to shoq se shoq pura fermian.

Rujail nd Mr. Mango

Ye baat qabil-e-ghor he is pr plz research kijye or kisi bhi tarah ki but authenticc info se mjhey bhi update kijye ga

Prophet SAW ne apni baiti Ko jahaiz NAHII diya tha.................note it

Un k Damad ne apni zra-e-baktr baichi thi or un paison se prophet SAW ne ghr ka bht ahem or zroori saman lekr diya tha jo zingai ki bunyadi zrooryat thi

ye kis ne keh diya k jahaiz sunnat he ya Prophet SAW ne b diya huwa he to jaiz he??

doosri baat agr ye bat maan bhi li jaye to Prophet SAw k diye gaye tahaif (floor cover, water bowl etc) me..............or................Tv,Oven,Car,100 types k Bed Covers,Iron,LCDs, 100 types k Tea sets, carpets, curtains, muzik system, Dvd Player,Qaleen, beytahasha bank balance, pata nahi kitney tole sonaa (although it is important for future n kids, never waste) , Bed , Furniture, washing machine, iron stands,or patanahi kiya kuch
OR SRF OR SRF IS NIYYAT SEY k log dekhen k hm ne beti ko kiya kuch diya he, hmari wah wah ho, or adhe se zyada saan store me gal srne lgta he....................me zameen asmaan ka frq hai
plz is bure fail ko Prophet ka nam lekr defense na kren iskaaa

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exactly yahi to me keh rai hun agr wo chahen to kiya kuch n hosktaa

pr tarbiyat jahan milti hen wahin khot ajaye to asee burayan or complexes hi janam lete hen

baqi ye k jahan burey log hen wahan achey b hen dfntlyy lakin un ki tadaad km he

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wo agar chahy to .....
jis type k mardon ka society par hold he ... un k nazdeek shyad yeh apni shan o shukat dekhany ka 1 zariya he ..
agr koi kisi ki beti ko bahu bana kar la raha he to ....... He will like to show others hm ne kitni unchi jaga shadi ki he .
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agr koi apni beti ko rukhsat kar raha he to .......... He will show others k hm ne apni beti ko buht kuch sath diya he .

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lakin ab aesy log bhi hn jin ka family par hold he .. jo un ko insist karty hn k na apni behan ki dafa jahez do na dosri ki dafa lo .......
but yeh kam khamoshi se ho jaty hn ..... news nahi ban pati is ki
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jis tarha k custom hm ne pakistan ban'ny k bad apna liye hn .... aur pehly kabi un ko address karny ki koshish tak nahi ki .......
yeh to abi last decade ki hi baat he people start talking about this.
so
it will be a slow going process.

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WALAIKUM ASSALAM,

ek tu pahly lerki waly lerky ke geologist ki tarah se sieve analysis kerty hian. . inni chaan phatak ke jesy CIA waly hon. . .
hud tu ye he ke paas paros tu door ki baat oskey Primary school tak pohanch jaty hian pooch ghach ke liye. . ke ye bachpan me kesa tha. . . .h

what was that ...??? lrkey ki search ya analysis, proposal...jahaiz k topic me kahan se agya??
nahaq cmnt lmbaa kiyaa

Phir dosra sawal ke kamata kitna he. . . zara jo amden me kami beshi paai. . jhat inkaar ker diya. . ye nahi sochtey ke unki lerki bhi lerky aur os ke gher waloon ki taraah se Gandum ki roti hi khati he. ..
najaney kion ye Lerki waly apny Damad ke gher ko Shahanshah Akber ke mahal jesa kion dekhna chahtey hain. . . pni lerki ke demagh tu pehly khud kharab kerty hian ke. . susraal me jay gi tu aish kary gi hamari raaj dulari. . .
lerki chahy jesi hji poher kion na ho. . per lerka kamao poot chiahey. . ..

han to....?? ghr wale apni baiti ase hi raah chaltey shakhs k sath bandh de??? bad me hazar problems hoti hen wo face krna acha he ya achi tarah janch prtal krna? hr koi chahta he un ki olad sukhi rahe........han me is bat pr agree krun gi k bht zyada demands krne wale ya bht zyada pay ki khwahish krne wale najaiz krtey hen....

Arey zara sa jehez de diya to kon si qayamat aagai. . . tumhari apni lerki hi tu use kary gi. . .. aur jo loug jahez ki demaand kerty hian. .

what do u mean by this?????........agr apko lgta he k lrkaa is qabil bhi nahi he k wo ap ki baiti ko zroort ka wo saman jo us ne use krna he, nahi khareed kr de sktaa to us lrkey k sath shadi hi kun ki ani baiti ki??
or kun den jahaiz???...kiya lrkaa mazoor hai?, berozgar hai?, wo kama n sktaa??? ase had haramon ko shadi ka koii haq hi nahi phr to.... jo biwi ki zrooryat poori nahi krsktey...tuff hai un pr.......doori bat jo cheezen jaaiz k nam pr mene apko doosre cmnt me ginwai hen wo thori siii haii???..............or phr to ghareeb lrki ko shadi ka haq nahi , us k parents ko b olad ki khushi dekhne ka haq nahi agr ap k baqol so called thoraa sa jahaiz dene pr wo qadir nahi hain??............aik taraf ap keh rae hn k lrko se itni demand k shadi n hopati or wo bazar-e-husn na jayen to kahan jayen.......doosri taraf lrki or us kl parents pr itnaa bojh k ghareeb shadi hi na krsake apni beti ki????or tak wo b burayi me qadam rkh de??? had hoti he ap tolkhudapne hi cmnt se muttafiq nahi hen

ya jahez ki shert per shadi ker tey hian tu on se rishta kerty hi kion ho. . . apni lekri ki sahi umer me shadi ker dian tu aaj unko majboori me koi rishta tu na kerna pary na. . .
gher ke lerkoon ko poochtey nahi. . . ke khala raziha ke lerka thora mota he. . .aisa he wesa he. . . "wesy aapus ki baat he khala raziha ke lerka he kesa" ye sawal bhi dosri cousins se poochti phirti hain lerkiyaan. .
bas Damad ko badnaam kerna ata he. . ye nahi ke sahi time per sahi faisla ker lain . . aur pani lekri ka gher basaain.

ye srf aik case he jahaiz ki shrt wala........hr case me jahaiz ki khullam khulla shrt nahi hoti bt still wo inkaar b nahi krtey......
or bht asani se ye krh kr k apni beti ko jo dena chahtey hen apki mrzi............k pichey apni lalach ko taskeen detey hen
shadi chah 30 me ho ya 16 me......shadi ka lazmi juz bn gya he jahaiz...or srf jahaiz nahi bhari bharkam jahaiz.....

me bas itna kahta hon ke. . ager mil jian khaian to dhood ke ley ke aao kahain se aisey Maa Baap jo apni beti ki shadi kis imaandar Mard per aitemaad ker ke jo Zoroorat Mand bhi ho, se ker dain Allah ke bharosey per. . . jo 2 time ki izzat ki roti khata ho. . . zara hum bhi tu dekhian. . . ke Damad hi kharab hian ye Dulhan me bhi kuch khot hay. . .

ji bilkull ase log b atey me namak k barabar hen jo apni beti ki shadi ase shakhs se kren gey aj k dor me bhi billkul jase imandar mrd ka hmari society me qaal para huwa he.........

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Rujail nd Mr. Mango

Ye baat qabil-e-ghor he is pr plz research kijye or kisi bhi tarah ki but authenticc info se mjhey bhi update kijye ga

Prophet SAW ne apni baiti Ko jahaiz NAHII diya tha.................note it

Un k Damad ne apni zra-e-baktr baichi thi or un paison se prophet SAW ne ghr ka bht ahem or zroori saman lekr diya tha jo zingai ki bunyadi zrooryat thi

ye kis ne keh diya k jahaiz sunnat he ya Prophet SAW ne b diya huwa he to jaiz he??

doosri baat agr ye bat maan bhi li jaye to Prophet SAw k diye gaye tahaif (floor cover, water bowl etc) me..............or................Tv,Oven,Car,100 types k Bed Covers,Iron,LCDs, 100 types k Tea sets, carpets, curtains, muzik system, Dvd Player,Qaleen, beytahasha bank balance, pata nahi kitney tole sonaa (although it is important for future n kids, never waste) , Bed , Furniture, washing machine, iron stands,or patanahi kiya kuch
OR SRF OR SRF IS NIYYAT SEY k log dekhen k hm ne beti ko kiya kuch diya he, hmari wah wah ho, or adhe se zyada saan store me gal srne lgta he....................me zameen asmaan ka frq hai
plz is bure fail ko Prophet ka nam lekr defense na kren iskaaa

mne bilkul nhi kaha k jahaiz sunnat ha,
mne Indonesia aur malaysia k mard haxraat ka hawaala b dia, k wahan p b aadmi apne peeson c khwateen ko zaroriaat ki cheexen le k dty en, shadi ma.
Nabi Paak SAW ne Hadrat Ali (R.A) ki zirra baktar ko farokht kr k bunyadi zaroorat ki cheexen di ti(mat, water sac, hand mill r date-leaves filled bed). mgr jo b ta Rukhsat to khali haath ni kia ta na.
ximedari to larki waloon p ai'd hti e na k wo q esi cheexen dty en. ap ne khud kaha k

OR SRF OR SRF IS NIYYAT SEY k log dekhen k hm ne beti ko kiya kuch diya he, hmari wah wah ho,

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mne kafi families ko dka e jsme samaan ki raqam both families (gal&guy ki) half half kr k important chexen khrid'ty en
wsy yahn b, lrky waly b lrki k lye samaan laty en ye b ap ne dka o ga!!!

[Shahid Dayo]

Well I dont hav any objection to become ghar damad

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hru all??

question is;

GHR DAMADI ko log kun buri nazar se dekhtey hen...??? kun mrd ki gherat pr bn jati he agr use koi ghr damadi ka keh de

ya ghr damadi ka tana de?????

OR

agr waqai ghr damadi aik gherat mnd admi k liye tana he ya ghalat bat he ya gherat pr hrf k brabar he to.........

WO MRD JAHAIZ LENA kese gawara krleta he?? kiye ye gherat pr hrf nahi??? k aik shakhs shadi is dawe or wade k

sath krrahahe k wo sari umr apni biwi k liye sahara bne ga, shadi ki shuruaat hi awrat/biwi k saman se krta he

isn't it hillarious...???


Thanx all for ur participation n appreciation if any lol

[Shahid Dayo]

Muashira Ganda naheen hota hay
Hum Ganday hotay hain
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Mushriray ( Society ) Acha ya bura hum he banatay hain !!!

wasalam!
yeah humare gande mushre ka tazad hai
aise buhat se tazadat hain humare mushre main or ghron main

mari phopho ki beti doctor hai kahti main ne beti wahan daini hai jahan khansaman ho mari beti ne nahi rotiaan pakni
kisi ki ..main ne raton ko jaga ke is liye nahi parya ke wo roti pakye or itna paisa is liye nahi lagya ke wo gherdari kare
but
jab bete ki shadi ki hai tu main ne baho wo lani hai jo hum main mil ke bethe ..wo bhi docter hai sath hi rahte hain wo bhi
tu bechari mangni ke baad se in ka kicthen dekhti hai hum guest jayeen tu un ki beti nahi baho serve karti hai sab kuch shadi se phele se hi

hun dasi aye ki tazad nahi


asie hio hazar bateen hain huamre family system main

[Shahid Dayo]

Jahaiz Lena Bilkul Jaaaeez naheen hay
Lakin
Shayad
Jahaiz na lanain par sab say ziyada prob Aurat ko he hoti hay....
Aurat ki dushman Aurat hay
Mard Naheeen,...

apnain aas pas dekh lain

hahahahahahah!!!! very serious and and funny questions .....lol.....

iska jawab tau boys hi day sakty hain
but han agar bura lagta hay ghar damadi pay tau jahaiz bhi na lo...........



well kaheen aysa bhi daikha hay main nay k mard raazi nai hota jahaiz pay kabhi koi mard isko as a custom samjhta hay or koi gharwalon say darta hay....................



system hay ye jahaiz ..kya kiiya jaye...magar hay tau ghalat.................

[Shahid Dayo]

99% Agreed
Buhat Acha point of View Hay

WALAIKUM ASSALAM,

ek tu pahly lerki waly lerky ke geologist ki tarah se sieve analysis kerty hian. . inni chaan phatak ke jesy CIA waly hon. . .
hud tu ye he ke paas paros tu door ki baat oskey Primary school tak pohanch jaty hian pooch ghach ke liye. . ke ye bachpan me kesa tha. . . .h

Phir dosra sawal ke kamata kitna he. . . zara jo amden me kami beshi paai. . jhat inkaar ker diya. . ye nahi sochtey ke unki lerki bhi lerky aur os ke gher waloon ki taraah se Gandum ki roti hi khati he. ..
najaney kion ye Lerki waly apny Damad ke gher ko Shahanshah Akber ke mahal jesa kion dekhna chahtey hain. . . pni lerki ke demagh tu pehly khud kharab kerty hian ke. . susraal me jay gi tu aish kary gi hamari raaj dulari. . .
lerki chahy jesi hji poher kion na ho. . per lerka kamao poot chiahey. . .Arey zara sa jehez de diya to kon si qayamat aagai. . . tumhari apni lerki hi tu use kary gi. . .. aur jo loug jahez ki demaand kerty hian. . . ya jahez ki shert per shadi ker tey hian tu on se rishta kerty hi kion ho. . . apni lekri ki sahi umer me shadi ker dian tu aaj unko majboori me koi rishta tu na kerna pary na. . .
gher ke lerkoon ko poochtey nahi. . . ke khala raziha ke lerka thora mota he. . .aisa he wesa he. . . "wesy aapus ki baat he khala raziha ke lerka he kesa" ye sawal bhi dosri cousins se poochti phirti hain lerkiyaan. .
bas Damad ko badnaam kerna ata he. . ye nahi ke sahi time per sahi faisla ker lain . . aur pani lekri ka gher basaain.

Gher Damad Merd ke liye waqai Gali he. . . kion ke Merd ki tareef ye he ke "Jo mushkil me na ghabraay". ab loug Merdoon per bharosa karian na. . pani lerki ki shadi karian na. . ke lerky ka apna gher nahi he. . aur ooper se osey majboor karian ke Gher Damad ban jaao. . . tu es Zawal e maashrat per koi insaan apni izzat o nafs ki hifazat ke liye lerki waloon ke najaaiz batoon ko na maaney tu batao kery tu kia karey. . .
kia ye theek he ke bazar e hussan ke chakkar katna shoroo ker dey. . . y akisi gali ke nikar p[er beth ker kisi "bil-batori" ke ishq me giraftaar ho jay . . .aur oski zindagi ajeeran ker dey.

likhan abhi bohat kuch he. . per me janta hon ke meri itni bhaat bhi kisi ke pally nahi pary gi. . . tu aagy likhney ka koi faidah nahi. ..

me bas itna kahta hon ke. . ager mil jian khaian to dhood ke ley ke aao kahain se aisey Maa Baap jo apni beti ki shadi kis imaandar Mard per aitemaad ker ke jo Zoroorat Mand bhi ho, se ker dain Allah ke bharosey per. . . jo 2 time ki izzat ki roti khata ho. . . zara hum bhi tu dekhian. . . ke Damad hi kharab hian ye Dulhan me bhi kuch khot hay. . .


dulhan ka tu dil deewana lagta he
dulhey ka sehra suhana lagta he

[Shahid Dayo]

Sara Qasooor Mardon Ka Nahen Hay !!!
aur Society ko hum sab nain mil kar badalna hoga...


Regards

woooooowwwwwww................zabrdest......kia point uthaya hy in nam nihad ghirat mnd mardun pr...acha maze ki bat ye k sb se zada is ghairat k muamle pr hamari hi society k mrd akrhte hen or sb se zada beghairti b jahez le kr yahi mrd show krte hen...uff sch a fake society we hav nd is ka main rzn b i think yahi hy k ISLAM se dori.......

[Shahid Dayo]

We Respect every kind of Views
so
Kisi bhe type ki Gola Bari Nahen hay ! :D

Ayeeee Hayeeeeeeeeee Arzu g..............Kiya dil jalata sawaal kiya hey......Mardoon ki Dukhti Rag pr haath rakh diya....ab dekhna kesey Gola bari ho gi or kesey Dhuwaan uthey ga............

[Shahid Dayo]

Agreed Bro !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wa alekum salam !!

mera dil chahta he k main aap ki baat se ikhtalaaf karon. Un mardon k liye jo dono ko hi apni gherat k khilaaf samjhty hn ..
but truth is that society mn double standards hn . but society to mard aurat dono se banti he... to double standards dono ki waja se hi hn kisi 1 ki waja se nahi
aur jis society mn jehez ki demand ki jati he ... wahan mardon se zeyada auratain is ki demand karti hn
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ap isy social issue samjh kar society se address karian .... sirf mardon ka hi to qasoor nahi
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aur ghar damadi ki to kaya kahiye .... log bahir jany k liye itny mary hoty hn k larki shadi kar k sath bahir le jay ....... tab un ko yeh bura feel nahi hota ... aur agr pakistan mn ho to sab ko hota he ....
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kaya he jo yahan hilarious nai he .... yahan aawy ka aawa hi bigra hua he ..... mard, aurat sab aik jesy hi hn .... dono mil kar hi aesi sochon ko janam dety hn.

[Rujail]

Rujail nd Mr. Mango

Ye baat qabil-e-ghor he is pr plz research kijye or kisi bhi tarah ki but authenticc info se mjhey bhi update kijye ga

Prophet SAW ne apni baiti Ko jahaiz NAHII diya tha.................note it

Un k Damad ne apni zra-e-baktr baichi thi or un paison se prophet SAW ne ghr ka bht ahem or zroori saman lekr diya tha jo zingai ki bunyadi zrooryat thi

ye kis ne keh diya k jahaiz sunnat he ya Prophet SAW ne b diya huwa he to jaiz he??

doosri baat agr ye bat maan bhi li jaye to Prophet SAw k diye gaye tahaif (floor cover, water bowl etc) me..............or................Tv,Oven,Car,100 types k Bed Covers,Iron,LCDs, 100 types k Tea sets, carpets, curtains, muzik system, Dvd Player,Qaleen, beytahasha bank balance, pata nahi kitney tole sonaa (although it is important for future n kids, never waste) , Bed , Furniture, washing machine, iron stands,or patanahi kiya kuch
OR SRF OR SRF IS NIYYAT SEY k log dekhen k hm ne beti ko kiya kuch diya he, hmari wah wah ho, or adhe se zyada saan store me gal srne lgta he....................me zameen asmaan ka frq hai
plz is bure fail ko Prophet ka nam lekr defense na kren iskaaa

sab se pehly jahez se mutaliq sharai jawab ba Hawala paish khidmat hey:
bawi mohterma ke comment per baat last me ki jay gi. . .


kuch aur tafseel:


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http://www.archive.org/stream/AapKayMasailAurUnKaHullByShaykhMuhammadYusufLudhyanvir.aTakhreej/AapKayMasailAurUnKaHullvolume6ByShaykhMuhammadYusufLudhyanvir.aTakhreejByShaykhSaeedAhmadJalalpurir.a#page/n246/mode/1up

(1)jahez sunat he ya nahi? Arzu aap ko jawab mil gaya hoga.
(2) jahez ki tareef bhi aapko maloom ho gai ho gi, ke woh cheezain jo waldeen apni beti ko mohhabat se dain. ye nahi ke kahan se aur kis tarah se arrange ker ke dain, Huzoor pak sallalaho alaihi wassalm ne jahez diya, thats all, kia behca aur kia khareeda ye ek alug baat he.

(3)"Oven,Car,100 types k Bed Covers,Iron,LCDs, 100 types k Tea sets, carpets, curtains, muzik system, Dvd Player,Qaleen, beytahasha bank balance, pata nahi kitney tole sonaa (although it is important for future n kids, never waste) , Bed , Furniture, washing machine, iron stands" ye jo aap ne cheezian likhi hian ye sawal tu lerki waloon se kia jaayga na, aap khud lerki hian samjhdaar hian, ye tana "sirf", i said Sirf Damad se hi kion???
(4)nomood o numaish me damad ka kia qosooor???
(5) ager aap mojoodah haal ki shadiyoon ko hozoor pak sallalaho alaihi wassalm ke dours ematch kerna chah rahi hian tu jahez hi nahi aur bhi 100s batian hian jin ko shumaar kerna pary ga. aur Meera poora comment dekh lian ke mene kahin bhi mojoodah jahez ko Huzoor pak sallalaho alaihi wassalm ke jahez deny se tabeer kia ho.

Arzu maloom hota he aap ne ghusssey me mujh aur Mr. Mango ko reply kia he es liye apna thread ka mozo khud hi bhool gain. goya lerki waloon ki buraiyaan bhi lerky waly ke khatoon me daal rahi hain. . .

Jado woh jo sar charhe ke boley. .

Me yahi tu kehna chah raha tha ke taaali donoon hathoon se bajti he. ..
sirf aru sirf Damad ka title ley ker os per Ikhtelfaat ki bochaar ker dena na insaafi he.

[Rujail]

mne bilkul nhi kaha k jahaiz sunnat ha,
mne Indonesia aur malaysia k mard haxraat ka hawaala b dia, k wahan p b aadmi apne peeson c khwateen ko zaroriaat ki cheexen le k dty en, shadi ma.
Nabi Paak SAW ne Hadrat Ali (R.A) ki zirra baktar ko farokht kr k bunyadi zaroorat ki cheexen di ti(mat, water sac, hand mill r date-leaves filled bed). mgr jo b ta Rukhsat to khali haath ni kia ta na.
ximedari to larki waloon p ai'd hti e na k wo q esi cheexen dty en. ap ne khud kaha k .
mne kafi families ko dka e jsme samaan ki raqam both families (gal&guy ki) half half kr k important chexen khrid'ty en
wsy yahn b, lrky waly b lrki k lye samaan laty en ye b ap ne dka o ga!!!

Sir ji. . aap ghabrain na. . Arzu ke sawal kia he tu jawab de rahay hian na hum. . . jahez sunnat hey. . aur jo cheez he woh hey. . chahy kisi ki smjh me aay na aay. . . comment like kerny aur agree kerny ka shukria.

ye hi baat ke hum ne kon sa dawa kia ke , falan falan cheez di aru falan falan nahi di. . .i am agreeed.

[Rujail]

99% Agreed
Buhat Acha point of View Hay

100% walaikum agreed.

[Rujail]

what was that ...??? lrkey ki search ya analysis, proposal...jahaiz k topic me kahan se agya??
nahaq cmnt lmbaa kiyaa



han to....?? ghr wale apni baiti ase hi raah chaltey shakhs k sath bandh de??? bad me hazar problems hoti hen wo face krna acha he ya achi tarah janch prtal krna? hr koi chahta he un ki olad sukhi rahe........han me is bat pr agree krun gi k bht zyada demands krne wale ya bht zyada pay ki khwahish krne wale najaiz krtey hen....



[/B][/SIZE][/I]what do u mean by this?????........agr apko lgta he k lrkaa is qabil bhi nahi he k wo ap ki baiti ko zroort ka wo saman jo us ne use krna he, nahi khareed kr de sktaa to us lrkey k sath shadi hi kun ki ani baiti ki??
or kun den jahaiz???...kiya lrkaa mazoor hai?, berozgar hai?, wo kama n sktaa??? ase had haramon ko shadi ka koii haq hi nahi phr to.... jo biwi ki zrooryat poori nahi krsktey...tuff hai un pr.......doori bat jo cheezen jaaiz k nam pr mene apko doosre cmnt me ginwai hen wo thori siii haii???..............or phr to ghareeb lrki ko shadi ka haq nahi , us k parents ko b olad ki khushi dekhne ka haq nahi agr ap k baqol so called thoraa sa jahaiz dene pr wo qadir nahi hain??............aik taraf ap keh rae hn k lrko se itni demand k shadi n hopati or wo bazar-e-husn na jayen to kahan jayen.......doosri taraf lrki or us kl parents pr itnaa bojh k ghareeb shadi hi na krsake apni beti ki????or tak wo b burayi me qadam rkh de??? had hoti he ap tolkhudapne hi cmnt se muttafiq nahi hen



ye srf aik case he jahaiz ki shrt wala........hr case me jahaiz ki khullam khulla shrt nahi hoti bt still wo inkaar b nahi krtey......
or bht asani se ye krh kr k apni beti ko jo dena chahtey hen apki mrzi............k pichey apni lalach ko taskeen detey hen
shadi chah 30 me ho ya 16 me......shadi ka lazmi juz bn gya he jahaiz...or srf jahaiz nahi bhari bharkam jahaiz.....




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Bismilla-hi-rahman-i-raheem.

Pythagoras maths me sab ne parha hogay. Arzu aap ne bhi. ek line ko definaiton kerny ke liye kai lines likhni perhti he.
same like quardratic equation, jab tak explain nahi ho gi smjh nahi ay gi.

Ab like Arzu, me start se hi her her variable per ye poochna shoroo ekr don ke kion likha? kahan se aya? es ka koi taluq nahi? tu sari zindagi sar patkh loon , Kaakh palley nahi pary ga.

Bilkul esi tarah Arzu ne baat samjhey baghair meri her her line per aiteraaz kerna shoroo ker diya. jab ke men baat ko samjhany ke liye tamheed bandi thi. aur ye tamheed se liye thi ke Arzu ki thread ka style bhi yehi he. ke maloom hota tha ke Start se hi Gola bari shoroo ho gai ho.


"what was that ...??? lrkey ki search ya analysis, proposal...jahaiz k topic me kahan se agya??
nahaq cmnt lmbaa kiyaa"
han to....?? ghr wale apni baiti ase hi raah chaltey shakhs k sath bandh de??? bad me hazar problems hoti hen wo face krna acha he ya achi tarah janch prtal krna? hr koi chahta he un ki olad sukhi rahe........han me is bat pr agree krun gi k bht zyada demands krne wale ya bht zyada pay ki khwahish krne wale najaiz krtey hen....


Srif es liye kaha the ke aakhir me jaa ker ye btana tha ke "jitna chano utna kirkira" wali baat he. chaan been zoroor honi chaihey, per post martum nai,ke Lerki ke khawbaoon ka Shazadah gulfaam hoa ke mil ke nahi de raha. aur loug es chaan phatak me lekri ki umer zaya ker dety hain. aur phir majbooran bari umer me shadi kerny ki waja se lerky waloon ke her jaiz o najaiz mutalbaat ko mantey hain.
aur jin batoon per aap ne agree kia, tu phir aiteraaz ok dohrany se kia faidah?


"what do u mean by this?????........agr apko lgta he k lrkaa is qabil bhi nahi he k wo ap ki baiti ko zroort ka wo saman jo us ne use krna he, nahi khareed kr de sktaa to us lrkey k sath shadi hi kun ki ani baiti ki??


mera matlab wohi he jo me likh chuka hon. jo saman diya jay ga, apni beti ko din ge.
es ka matlab ye kion liya aap ne ke lerka es qabil ya os qabil nahi he??? ye aap khud hi bahter janain.

Dosri baat ke aapny meri baat ghalta quote ki , aur samjhi bhi ghalat. me ne ye nahi ka ke "ap ki baiti ko zroort ka wo saman jo us ne use krna he, nahi khareed kr de sktaa to us lrkey k sath shadi hi kun ki ani baiti ki?? " balke men kaha ke "aur jo loug jahez ki demaand kerty hian. . . ya jahez ki shert per shadi ker tey hian tu on se rishta kerty hi kion ho", tu aap ki aur meri baat me wazeh afrq he. . per aapka aur meera sawal jata Lerki waloon ki hi taraf he ke ager lerka smaan afford nahi ker sakta he tu, Shadi karo to bharosa karo ke aqt ke sath sath zororiyat e zindagi ka bandobast ker ley ga, aur jo log demanding he on se rishta hi na joro.



or kun den jahaiz???...kiya lrkaa mazoor hai?, berozgar hai?, wo kama n sktaa??? ase had haramon ko shadi ka koii haq hi nahi phr to.... jo biwi ki zrooryat poori nahi krsktey...tuff hai un pr.......

kai bar repate ho chuka ke jahez dena waldeen ki mohabat ka suboot he. apni beti ki care he. nothing else. phir jab jan liya gaya ke ye waldeen ki khawhish ke mutabiq hoa he tu demand ka sawal hi paidah nahi hota.
phir kaha ja chuka ke ksi ahmaq ne mashwarah diya he ke , beyrozgar, had haram, aur jin per aap ne tuff bheji he os se apni lerki ka rishta karain? 100% inkaar banta he, rishtey ka saal hi nahi.
mera kahna itna tha ke lerki ki sahi time per shadi na honey se baad me waldeen ko es tarah ke samjhotey kerny partey hain. y woh loug jinki beti key rishtey aay bhi bari umer me , ya koi waja se reject ker di gai. aur her insaan apni beti ki shadi achi jaga kenry ka haq rakhta he. ab haq rakhna aur baat he apni marzi per israar kerna ke, lerka aisa aisa no howa, aur hamari catagori ya standard na howa tu hum shadi hi nahian karaingey ek alug baat he.

baat aapne BV ki zorooriya ki ki he tu zra es ko bhi wazeh ker doon ke BV ka kia haq he shohar per, au rkitna he:

haq-e-zojiyat ke baad, 2 time ki roti. ab bhala kesi roti? jis se osta pait bhar jay. BV ko koi Haq nahi he ke resturat ke khany , fast food, aur ala balaki fermishian kerti phirey.
sar per chhut, kesi chhut? jis me pardah aur izzat ka tahuffuz ho saky. kisi qisam ke angley, kangley aur banlgey ki fermiash najaiz hogi. koi alet, palte flat, ki demand nahi.
na zeewar ki demand, na makeup ki, na............boht sari cheezian hian, . . .yahan tak ke apni marzi se apny waldeen ke gher bhi jany ki ijazat nahi. Zara ley aain koi Baan ki sajeeli jo itney Haq per razi ho jay???



doori bat jo cheezen jaaiz k nam pr mene apko doosre cmnt me ginwai hen wo thori siii haii???..............

aap ne jo chezian jahez me ginwain woh sb lerki ke waldeen se mutaliq hain. tu sawal on se kia jay. aur ager Mard demand kery tu os se rishta na karian. jab sara maashrah es tarah se aisey lerkoon ko thukra dey ga to os ki aqal aajay gi. tu oskey pas 2 rastey ho ge, ya tu beyghariti ki zindagi jeeta rahy ya phir zimhdari ka muzahirah karey.
aur me janta hon ke 2, 3 bar koi reject ker dey tu ager to wo waqai merd he tu zoroor line per aajay ga. otherwise achy aur burey loug dunya me her jag apaay jaty hain, her her ki islah kerna mushkil kaam he.

or phr to ghareeb lrki ko shadi ka haq nahi , us k parents ko b olad ki khushi dekhne ka haq nahi agr ap k baqol so called thoraa sa jahaiz dene pr wo qadir nahi hain??............aik taraf ap keh rae hn k lrko se itni demand k shadi n hopati or wo bazar-e-husn na jayen to kahan jayen.......doosri taraf lrki or us kl parents pr itnaa bojh k ghareeb shadi hi na krsake apni beti ki????or tak wo b burayi me qadam rkh de??? had hoti he ap tolkhudapne hi cmnt se muttafiq nahi hen"

ameer ho ya ghreeb,her kisi ko haq he ke apni bei ko achi jaga per biyahain. sab ko apni olaad ki khushiyan dekhneyka haq he.
ameer tu ameer he, woh apni haisiyat ke hisaab se deta he apni beti ko. kion ke woh janta he ke woh ye ker ley ga.
per ye ghaeeb ko kia howa? jo sirf mo se ghaeebi ka rona rota he, per apni hiasiyat se oncha jhankney ki koshish kerta he. sab se pehli baat ke ghareeb khud ko tu pehly ghareeb tasuwwur karey. aur phir apny rishtey daroon, ya bradri, ya apn ya jaisoon me rishta talash kary.
jab apus me shadiyaan karain ge tu, pahly tu aik dosrey ke halaat se bakhabar hongey. tu demand ka sharaait ka level tu wes hi ghat jaay ga.

per masla ye he ke lerki chahey ameer ki ho ya ghreeb ki, oska ke khawboon ka shahzadah gulfaam jo he, os jo muqaam aur maiyaar os lerki ne set kiya hoa he woh dhoondney se bhi na milay.

aap lerkon ko zimehdari ke ahsas dilain, onki mangniyaan karian phely , ta ke on ko zimehdari ka ahsaas ho. aur woh apni shadiyon ki tayyraiyan khud karian. per ye lerki waly razi jab hotey, jab lerki ki umer nikla jati he. ya lerka es hud tak kaahil aur laperwah oh jata he ke osey baith ke khany ke ilwah kuch nahi sojhta.

aur ye baat sab ke samny hian ke shadi ki umer ki hud se guzarny ke baad akser Mard, bey rah rawi ka shikar ho jaty hain. os me ameer aur ghareeb donoon shamil hain. ye manany wali baat he, aur talkh haqeeqat he, mashrati bigaar ki sab se bari waja he. Mard aur Ortain braber ki shareek hain.

ab es mahool me jahan achy rishtoon ka kaal hey, chay achi lerki dhondoo ya lerka, qahat donoon jaga per mojood he. aur sirf karachi me hr egher em kam se kam 2 , 3 lerkiyaan kuwari mojood hhian. os ke bawajood lougoom qadrey kam kamany waly, shareef lerkoon ye kam khobsoorat pr saleeqamnd lekrioon ko tarjeeh nahi dian gey tu gari kesy chaly gi.

[Aroosa Abbas]

Wa-alaikum-us-Salam WRBR
Shadi ma beti ko Tohfay dena chahiye
maa Baap q numaish kertay hain. shukar hai ab ye rasam km ho gai hai jahan larki ko diye janay waly tmam tahaif pakar pakar k dkhae jaty thay r kapray bakaida Taang k dkhae jatay thay.
Ap show off na kren to beti ka haq hai k wo maa baap k ghar se cheezen aur tahaif le ker jaey jahan us ne bht sa wakat guzara hai.
ap afford kr saktay hain to den, apni hesiat aur martabay se brh k mt den.
Jo larkay walay maangtay hain ap un se q rishta jortay hain?? eson ka mounh khul jata hai phir, jab bht bar thukraya jae ga na tb aql aa jae gi usko b aur us k ghar walon ko b.
larki waly mt nechay lgain na, beti de rhay hain (Astaghfirullah) soda to ni kr rhy na!!!

[Aroosa Abbas]

dusri baat aaj kal waldain b ye kr rhay hain, k beti ko jo naam ka jahaiz detay hain, bus wohi hota hai, us k baad wirasat ma us ko bye bye kr dia jata hai.
me ksi ko support nahi kr rahi na he ksi k against hoon, mgr baat ye hai, k qasoor sirf 1 he banday k gallay ma daal dena sara-sr ghalat hai, taali dono hathon se bajti hai, societyjo chal rahi hai na to her tarah k logon se. sirf 1 larkay p ilzam dhair kr dena bilkul ghalat hai!!!