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    SUPPOSE U GET MARRIAGE PROPOSAL FROM A FAMILY OR A PERSON WITH WHOM U R IN GOOD RELATIONSHIPS

    YOU DON'T WANT TO MARRY BUT U ALSO DON'T WANT TO HURT THEM

    WHAT WOULD BE YOUR WISE AND CLEVER STRATEGY TO REFUSE THEM WITH MAINTAINING A GOOD ENVIRONMENT AND FRIENDLY RELATIONSHIP


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    Quote Originally Posted by *~Princess Pari~* View Post


    lolzzzzzzzzzz....................shukar karain ham phir bhi apni shakal dikha jatey hain.......kuch fk k loag to Shadi kr k shayad Allah ko piyarey ho gaey...!!!......
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    Excellent reply

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    Quote Originally Posted by patriot19472001 View Post
    Assalam o Alaikum

    Situation is tough and you just gave some hints. Following hints might be used

    1- Always use indirect refusal instead of direct refusal e.g. Take time for thinking and forget to answer them. This will create a realization for them not to ask again
    2- DON'T ever try to keep close with your relatives (Those who proposed you) because this thing will lead them to the false assumption that you are comfortable with them and they will insist for the answer
    3- Keep your personal life personal. The relatives who will not understand your silence, they will also not understand even if you will give a reason
    4- Don't try to be direct with them. Use someone else (Someone elder, most probably parents) to lead the REFUSAL decision
    5- And Remember! Refusal from a girl is felt as an insult in our society even in the 21th century so you can either make them happy by saying "YES" or keep silence and avoid their anger
    6- Don't show any false reason which lead to destroy your personality in present or in future

    In fact when a proposal is initiated by any family for a girl, its the sign that whole family like that girl being their closed one so along with refusal, also request them not to talk about this matter with other close families because this situation will create a clashing environment between the both families.

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    oye jeeja ko jin keh rai ho?
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    hmm ѕмαяту ¢αт, princess pari ko koi jin le ura......

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    Re: What would be your wise strategy to refuse a marriage proposal by ur goodones

    polite way may koi acha sa reason bana ker inkar kerdo,
    ager phir bhi bura man jaye to samjho family achi nahi thi lolzzz
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    agr mene kbhi life me kisi k sath bohut buri tarah se break up krna huwa to u k mashware pr ankhen bnd krk zroor amal krun gi

    koi haal nahi
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    polite way may koi acha sa reason bana ker inkar kerdo,
    ager phir bhi bura man jaye to samjho family achi nahi thi lolzzz

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    hamesha ki tarahn intresting topic!!! jee haan baaz aoqaat aisi situation life main aajati hai jahan aap kafi puzzle mehsoos karte hain...but i think some time we need to be practical kiyon ke shadi is not just one day meeting it is whole life contract so its better ke you should be clear as well as others should be clear agar koi aap ko dil se chahta hai pyar karte hai woh zaroor aap ke faislay ko bhi izzat de ga!!!! mere khyal se aisi situations main practical hona ziyada zaroori hai bajaye iss ke ke hum koi aisa faisla karien jis se pehle tou hum nakhush rahien aur baad main agay jakar doosre log humre iss faisle se mutasir hoon. some time we need to use our mind rather than our heart...kuch dair ka hurt hona kaheen behtar hai ke hum koi aisa faisla karien jo baad main koi tamam umr humari wajha se hurt hota rahe ...talk with them in friendly manners hope they will get the point!! jazbaat se kiyeh huye faise aksar logon ko tanha kar dete hain!!!!

    great topic to discuss!!! keep it uppppppppppppppppppppppppppp
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    thanx alot sis

    u r right........ means to the point clear bat krni chahye
    Quote Originally Posted by Savi Abbas View Post
    hamesha ki tarahn intresting topic!!! jee haan baaz aoqaat aisi situation life main aajati hai jahan aap kafi puzzle mehsoos karte hain...but i think some time we need to be practical kiyon ke shadi is not just one day meeting it is whole life contract so its better ke you should be clear as well as others should be clear agar koi aap ko dil se chahta hai pyar karte hai woh zaroor aap ke faislay ko bhi izzat de ga!!!! mere khyal se aisi situations main practical hona ziyada zaroori hai bajaye iss ke ke hum koi aisa faisla karien jis se pehle tou hum nakhush rahien aur baad main agay jakar doosre log humre iss faisle se mutasir hoon. some time we need to use our mind rather than our heart...kuch dair ka hurt hona kaheen behtar hai ke hum koi aisa faisla karien jo baad main koi tamam umr humari wajha se hurt hota rahe ...talk with them in friendly manners hope they will get the point!! jazbaat se kiyeh huye faise aksar logon ko tanha kar dete hain!!!!

    great topic to discuss!!! keep it uppppppppppppppppppppppppppp
    thanks for sharing ...blessings
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    Quote Originally Posted by ѕмαяту ¢αт View Post

    oye jeeja ko jin keh rai ho?
    to wo jinn nhi hn kya ........

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    Apne parents ko bata dain ke me kisi ko or pasand krti hoon is liye ap log tareeqay se unse maazrat kr lain ..simple




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    lolzzzz what if parents unhe chorh kr pehle ap se do do hath krna shuru hojayen whn they would knw unk barkhudar ne kahin or nazar rkhi hui he
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    Apne parents ko bata dain ke me kisi ko or pasand krti hoon is liye ap log tareeqay se unse maazrat kr lain ..simple

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    Quote Originally Posted by ѕмαяту ¢αт View Post
    lolzzzz what if parents unhe chorh kr pehle ap se do do hath krna shuru hojayen whn they would knw unk barkhudar ne kahin or nazar rkhi hui he
    So what ? me ne suna hy pyar krne walay kabhi dartay nahi jo dartay hain woh pyar krtay nahi so itna dum to andar hona chahiye ke 2/4 haath pyar ki qurbani ke liye kha liye jayen

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    nope I believe agr asi koi bat ho to kisi b proposal k aney se pehle parents ko btadeni chahye bagher koi affair chalaye or wd koi step lye..............thts confidence
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    So what ? me ne suna hy pyar krne walay kabhi dartay nahi jo dartay hain woh pyar krtay nahi so itna dum to andar hona chahiye ke 2/4 haath pyar ki qurbani ke liye kha liye jayen

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    nope I believe agr asi koi bat ho to kisi b proposal k aney se pehle parents ko btadeni chahye bagher koi affair chalaye or wd koi step lye..............thts confidence
    Usually aisa nahi hota ke koi bhi parents ko foran bata de hota yeh hy ke dono me se kisi ek ki soch ye hoti hy ke munasib waqt pr bata dain gay like keh sakti hain 10th class ke students ko pyar ho jata hy to ab woh ghar pr to batane se rahay ke dono ne zindagi me krna hy wo nahi kr sakain gay or parents ne kaan se pakar kr shadi kr deni hy ya qaid kr dena hy is liye munasib waqt ka wait krtay hain lkn beech me koi proposal aa jaye to phr batana hi parta hy is liye confidence yahan dikhana chahiye lols

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    lol yahi to baat hy agr some one really wants some1..........he would/should directly go fr an acceptable relationship

    ap cheez ko achy tarah represent karen gey to response b acha mily ga agr affair k doran pakrey gaye to chahe sb kuch kitna hi sahi or sacha ho response negative miley ga

    ofcrs 10th class ka student cell phone pr bat krtey hue pakra jaye to jootey hi pren gey agr wohi lrka achy andaz me btade parents ko k us ne un ka trrust n toraa or ye k

    he likes smbdy n wants to be with him/her in legal way.......................to I think koi parents negative n response kare ga......atleast 100 me se 80% atleast positive hi response karen gey
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    Usually aisa nahi hota ke koi bhi parents ko foran bata de hota yeh hy ke dono me se kisi ek ki soch ye hoti hy ke munasib waqt pr bata dain gay like keh sakti hain 10th class ke students ko pyar ho jata hy to ab woh ghar pr to batane se rahay ke dono ne zindagi me krna hy wo nahi kr sakain gay or parents ne kaan se pakar kr shadi kr deni hy ya qaid kr dena hy is liye munasib waqt ka wait krtay hain lkn beech me koi proposal aa jaye to phr batana hi parta hy is liye confidence yahan dikhana chahiye lols

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    Ap shayed fairy land me hi rehti hongi kion ke apki baatain buht old hain aaj kal ka pyaar jis ko log pyaar kehtay hain buht achay se andaaz me sone ki tishtri me rakh kr bhi parents ko bataen gi to jootay paray gay woh bhi buht zor ke or ap keh rahi hain 80% positive response milay ga these days mostly people like someone and wish to be with her/him but ziada tar wo student makhlooq hoti hain is lye me ne likha tha ke woh munasib waqt ka wait kr rahay hotay hain ya phr time pass
    han ap buht ziada friendly hain apne parents ke sath to bata saktay hain nahi to jab tak churii gardan pr nahi aa jati aisa hota nahi or na pakistan ke maa baap itne azaad hoye hain


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    lol yahi to baat hy agr some one really wants some1..........he would/should directly go fr an acceptable relationship

    ap cheez ko achy tarah represent karen gey to response b acha mily ga agr affair k doran pakrey gaye to chahe sb kuch kitna hi sahi or sacha ho response negative miley ga

    ofcrs 10th class ka student cell phone pr bat krtey hue pakra jaye to jootey hi pren gey agr wohi lrka achy andaz me btade parents ko k us ne un ka trrust n toraa or ye k

    he likes smbdy n wants to be with him/her in legal way.......................to I think koi parents negative n response kare ga......atleast 100 me se 80% atleast positive hi response karen gey

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    Lolzzzzz waaaah aik to me bold step ka confidence ki bat krrai hun n u r saying me old .......... v funny

    n yeah I love strong charactered ppl.................dheeley character k log mjhy n psnd.............chahe wo muhabbat k nam pr ho ya tym pass

    M nt frank with my parents at alll................bt one thing I knw if m nt wrong, m nt decieving my parents, y would nt they take care my choice?

    yeah there are some ppl who r illiterate I knw............ bt wo aatey me namak k barabar na sahi to chalo juice me sugar k brabar hngey bt still try it azmaish shart hy

    If u r a student, like smone............Go fr jaiz n legal way.......phr to Allah b help krta hy............bt always remmbr ...negativity ultimately leadsto negativity......same goes fr positivity

    aap k khyal me ap k affair ko kisi or ki zubani sun kr parents fakhar karen ge? ya still ap unse expect krtey hn k wo apko positive response den appreiate karen???......fr sure u'll never want ur child to decieve u or to break ur trust......will u?.
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    Ap shayed fairy land me hi rehti hongi kion ke apki baatain buht old hain aaj kal ka pyaar jis ko log pyaar kehtay hain buht achay se andaaz me sone ki tishtri me rakh kr bhi parents ko bataen gi to jootay paray gay woh bhi buht zor ke or ap keh rahi hain 80% positive response milay ga these days mostly people like someone and wish to be with her/him but ziada tar wo student makhlooq hoti hain is lye me ne likha tha ke woh munasib waqt ka wait kr rahay hotay hain ya phr time pass
    han ap buht ziada friendly hain apne parents ke sath to bata saktay hain nahi to jab tak churii gardan pr nahi aa jati aisa hota nahi or na pakistan ke maa baap itne azaad hoye hain

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    wasalam
    ajeeb si situation he. durr he ke kahain jhoot bolna ya bahana banana na per jay.
    aisa kabhi suna nahi, daramoon me tu ho sakta he.
    sach bolo chahy jhoot, dil tu bandy ka totay ga hi. wesy bhi ye tu propose karny waly per depend kerta he ke os ne kia samjh ke propose kia he.
    ab hum ko chiahye ke sach sach ek baar keh ker kerwa ghoont pilain aur pila dain. after all proposal, proposal hi hota he, decision nahi. decision to always humarey paas hi rahy ga.

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    hmm kafi had tk sahi kahaa
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    wasalam
    ajeeb si situation he. durr he ke kahain jhoot bolna ya bahana banana na per jay.
    aisa kabhi suna nahi, daramoon me tu ho sakta he.
    sach bolo chahy jhoot, dil tu bandy ka totay ga hi. wesy bhi ye tu propose karny waly per depend kerta he ke os ne kia samjh ke propose kia he.
    ab hum ko chiahye ke sach sach ek baar keh ker kerwa ghoont pilain aur pila dain. after all proposal, proposal hi hota he, decision nahi. decision to always humarey paas hi rahy ga.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ѕмαяту ¢αт View Post
    hmm kafi had tk sahi kahaa
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    Dekhen ye apke ikhlaaq pe depend karta hai k ap kese refuse karen ge......e.g. mere cuzn ne apni bivi ko divorce di phir uski behnon ne meri bari sis ka rishta manga uske liye...lekin mera cuzn nahi mana...usne ye keh kar refuse kar dia k muje kunwari larki se shadi karni hai....qk jis se pehle uski shadi hui thi wo uske ghar k sath e rehti hai wo phir usko tanay degi k dekha phir talaq yafta hi mili hena.....ab uske is reason pe ham hurt nahi hue......
    Again I would say k ye to apka ikhlaq henaa brdasht krlya......doosre ka ikhlaq hm pr to nai depend krta naa..... k ap usko smjhayen k tm b ikhlaq se accept krlo..wo kya response krtey hn is pe ap ka koi ikhtyar nai
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